When you find yourself hurt in a moment, how do you cope with it? How do you recover?
Do you escape through television, shopping, eating ice cream, or sitting in self-pity? These are some of the ways that I have dealt with my hurt.
The only problem with these things is that they only bring momentary relief. At the end of the day, the pain still lingers and is present.
On an ordinary day, I can’t begin to count the things that seem insignificant to other people but deeply hurt me.
When someone doesn’t ask how I am doing, doesn’t notice that I am sad, or doesn’t help me when I look overwhelmed. Or if someone is rude, or maybe says something hurtful, or doesn’t say thank you or appreciate me.
The small hurts can build up, and when they linger it feels like an enormous heavy weight of hurt.
A hurt can penetrate your heart and deeply affect you, as well as your whole day. It can feel hard to stomach that nothing you can do or say to yourself could give you the deep relief and comfort that you need to soothe your heart in the moment.
We can choose to let the hurt go deep in our hearts or we can go to Jesus right away and remember the redemption we have in him.
It’s not easy knowing how to recover and bounce back when you are deeply hurt in the moment.
Can you relate to this? If so, you are not alone. Together, we can understand a permanent way to get out of our pain with Jesus Christ.
In Colossians 1:13-14 (NIV) we read: “For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.”
As we recognize and acknowledge our hurt in the moment, we can see our need for help.
In our own ability to deal with our pain from the hurt, we are lost. We can know that in our own strength and efforts it is hopeless; hurt will linger.
Temporary solutions are just that: temporary. Our hurt will never go away fully if it’s not dealt with on a root level by letting Jesus in at that moment. Our hearts are fragile. The hurt will stay in there if we’re not allowing the power of Jesus to take it from us.
We can choose to let the hurt go deep in our hearts or we can go to Jesus right away and remember the redemption we have in him.
Jesus’ redemption is the path to recovery when we are hurt. When we accept him into our hearts we have the continuous ability and choice to not live in pain and hurt, but live in his redemption immediately.
Knowing that we are redeemed through the blood of Jesus is something we can depend on and rest in. It leads to freedom and rescue. It is our escape.
It’s a gift to be able to know that we can give Jesus our hurts in prayer, completely openly and honestly, and experience freedom from the pain that someone caused us.
Sometimes it can feel like the pain is still present after praying, but when we don’t leave the presence of Jesus he will give us the sweet relief we need.
He has forgiven us of our sins. We can likewise forgive others, remembering the redemptive power that we have in him.
Being forgiven and delivered from our sins is a monumental victory, and not to be taken lightly. His redemptive power is always with us; being able to live in that place when we’re hurt is the path to a life of living free from instant pain and hurt.
Give your hurt and pain directly to Jesus, right away, in order to experience immediate relief.
Tips to give Jesus your pain right away:
- Pray in the moment when something happens. Tell Jesus how you hurt; know that he sees you, loves you, and will never disappoint you.
- Remember and memorize scripture that teaches how Jesus cares for you and has the best for you. This helps you to want to go to him. Below are some verses that really speak to my heart!
- Romans 8:35-39 (NIV)
No hurt or pain or anything can separate you from his love. He loves you so much! - Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)
The Lord has such goodness for you! - Psalm 34:8 (NIV)
He is so good when we go to him and he is our safe place when hurting. Go to him.
- Romans 8:35-39 (NIV)
Questions to ask yourself:
- Why did that hurt me?
- Did I have reasonable expectations of the person who hurt me?
- Did I fully and completely release all my hurt and pain to Jesus?
10 Responses
Dealing with pain is such an important ‘spiritual survival skill’ on the Christian journey! Thanks for your words of wisdom!
Thank you so much Sam and I agree! Thank you again!
So important. Gr8 thought proviking journalling questions. Thank u. X
Thank you so much Lauren and so thankful that the questions are helpful to you!
I was just hurt the other day…and my human nature wanted to wallow in it. Maybe talk to someone about it before handing it over to God. I mean, that’s justified, right? WRONG. (palm-faced emoji) Your tips and questions are very helpful. I’m going to pin this to have for future hurts! (Because I KNOW they will happen…) Bless you!
Thank you so much Rochelle and I too at times want to wallow in my hurt. But yes handing it over to God first is always the best way to go. I am so glad the tips and questions were helpful to you! Yes unfortunately we will be hurt again but thankful that God is always with us and there for us! Thanks again and God bless you too!
It is so hard to deal with hurt in a helpful way. Getting at the root of the hurt is powerful when we rely on the Holy Spirit to help and to heal!
I definitely agree, Ginger. It can be hard but yes getting to the root with the Holy Spirit is so powerful to help us heal! Thank you so much for sharing!
Something small happens and then things start to build…I know all about that. Scripture is SO powerful in helping us in dealing with our hurts!
Yes, I definitely agree Kara about the power of scripture! So thankful we have his word to help us in our hurt! Thank you for sharing!